The basics

LGBTQIA+: all of the identities commonly associated with gender and sexual identities that are outside of the heterosexual, cisgender norm. This iteration stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, Asexual, and more. 

Gender Identity: person’s internal sense of gender. Not just male or female, it’s a spectrum, which may or may not correspond with birth sex

Birth sex: biological makeup; a person’s sex assigned at birth – Male/Female/Intersex

Cisgender (“cis”): someone whose gender identity is the same as their sex at birth (ex. born female and identify as female)

Non-binary or genderqueer: a gender identity that does not fit into the male/female binary (yes, ‘genderqueer’ is one word)

Transgender (“trans”): umbrella term that describes someone whose gender identity is different from their sex at birth

Sexual Orientation: a person’s physical & emotional attraction to others

Lesbian: a female entirely or primarily attracted to women

Gay: a male entirely or primarily attracted to men 

Bisexual: a person attracted to both sexes (binary)

Pansexual: a person who is attracted to all gender identities

Asexual: a person who experiences little or no physical attraction to others

Queer: non-conforming, neutral, or gender fluid. It is an umbrella term often used to identify as other than heterosexual and/or cisgender; This term can be considered a slur so do not use for anyone who hasn’t already identified themselves as such

Passing/blending: person who can visually ‘fit in’ with cis and/or heterosexual crowds 

Gender-neutral pronouns: often, but not strictly, used by non-binary and/or genderqueer people to identify themselves in the third person

Misgender: the act of deliberately or accidentally referring to someone by the wrong gender assignation

Gender transition: identifying with a new gender. It could involve gender-affirming hormone replacement therapy and surgery. However, it’s different for each person. No one needs to complete a specific set of steps to have transitioned

Gender dysphoria: the feeling of your appearance or outside perception of yourself not matching your gender identity. Some trans people could experience this in different ways their whole lives

Outing: revealing someone else’s sexuality or gender identity without their consent. This is very disrespectful and potentially dangerous to the person’s well-being

**Side A Christians: believe God makes people gay. God blesses same-sex marriages in the same ways He blesses opposite-sex marriages. Many Side A gay Christians believe the Bible is not binding or prescriptive for a modern context.

**Side B Christians: believe same-sex attraction is not what God intended and is a result of general sin (not specific to this one person). But also believe we do not choose who we are attracted to and there is no formula for changing one’s attractions. There is no context for same-sex sexual or romantic activity that God blesses, so they are sins. God calls all Christians to a vocation of celibacy or marriage with someone of the opposite sex. Side B gay Christians may identify as “gay” in a limited way, finding it helpful to identify with those of a shared heritage and similar life experiences.

**Side X Christians: believe same-sex attracted Christians must reject their attractions and work toward changing their attractions. Continuing to experience same-sex attraction is a sign of willful disobedience and/or lukewarm sanctification. Homosexuality in any form is sinful. God intends for all people to marry someone of the opposite sex. (Confronting the weaknesses and gaps of this perspective is the reason for this ministry & blog.)

If you’re interested in scheduling a presentation including an opportunity for an open and honest discussion for you or our group, feel free to contact me.

*Grammarly is a great reference source for many of these terms

**Side A, B, and X Christian definitions from Equip Community

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I am a Life & Ministry Coach who works with established Christian ministries who are seeking to improve relationship with the LGBTQ community. I specialize in gathering and presenting quantitative research as well as providing my own experience to help ministry leaders understand the current landscape and social trends. Now, through sharing my experience and coaching others, I’m coming home to help ministries and individuals navigate the minefield of #cancelculture and the ever-changing landscapes to reach those who feel like they're fighting alone.

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